The Biblical idea of abstaining from having sex until one is married is considered these days to be an abnormal practice, which many can not see any sense in the idea.
But in a world where sexual transmitted disease are rising all the time just maybe abstaining has it value. For others who believe sex is just for fun, and wish to go out and have many encounters the idea of safe sex is worth taking note. The saying goes “if your going to have sex, will at least have safe sex, use a condom’.This is what our society is preaching to the masses. But is there such a thing as safe sex?
Ian Wisheart in his book Eve’s Bites has a very interesting chapter on the myth of safe sex and it is from this chapter that I will quote and document his findings.
Wisheart says, A generation ago, couples were getting married in their early 20’s entering stable relationship and genrally avoiding promiscuity. As a result STD rates were much lower in the seventies and eighties. But today most people are not settling into long term relationships until their late 20s or 30s. They have multiple partners before marriage, and a corresponding huge rise in sexual disease rates…
Why is this case when many are using condoms because they are the way to protect one self. The interesting fact is more people are using condoms, but more people are catching diseases. One good reason may be because you have been told a lie?
The New Zealand Ministry of Health has a web site called Hubba.co.nz which is a web site designed to educate young people and adults on safe sex education.
As Wisheart says, the Hubba website doesn’t care that its information for young people is dangerously incorrect, judging from its arrogant Q&A on condom safety.
It states,
Q; Are condoms safe?
A; Condoms do protect you, some people say it isn’t worth using condoms because they have holes big enough for viruses to get through, but that’s not true. Bacteria and viruses …cannot pass through an undamaged condom.
The problem with this statement is that the most recent scientific studies have shown that condoms are not all that safe. Condoms may protect against Aids to a point, but not STD
Chlamydia; Still has a 60% relative risk of catching it even if a condom is correctly used every time
Gonorrhea; Still has a 60% relative risk of catching it even if a condom is correctly used.
Herpes; Still has a 60 % relative risk of catching it even if condoms are used correctly.
Genital Warts; No published study has found condoms can protect against this at all.
In fact Ian Wisheart goes on to say that every medical research study since 2001 has found condoms have only limited efficacy against venereal diseases. To support his claim he lists the top research studies that have been done, the first being the World Health Organization.
World Health Organization Bulletin, June 2004,
No published prospective study has found protection against genital human papillomavirus (cervical Cancer/warts/HPV) infection.
Journal of Sexually Transmitted Diseases, 2003,
A study of 917 female sex workers in Lima, Peru were re-examined monthly for infection STDs. Those women who consistently used condoms still had chlamydia infection rate of 74% compared to the infection rate of women who didn’t use condoms.
Journal of Sexual Transmitted Diseases, 2002,
A meta-analysis of 20 studies found no evidence that condoms were effective against genital HPV infection, warts or cervical cancer.
American Journal of Epidemiology, 2003,
A study of 444 female university students found that consistently using condoms with a new partner was not associated with significant protection against HPV.
American Journal of Epidemiology, 2004,
A study of 4314 participants who visited STD clinics found consistent use of condoms still resulted in an infection rate of 82% compared against those who didn’t use condoms.
Journal of Infectious Diseases, 1999,
A study followed the progress of 484 adolescents at four STD clinics over six months, and found 21% of those who always used condoms had caught a sexually transmitted disease, compared with 23% of those who sometimes or never used a condom (a 91% risk of infection, group vs group)
Journal of Sexual Transmitted Diseases, 1995,
A study of 598 people attending an STD clinic in Baltimore found infection rates were almost the same, regardless of whether a condom was always used or not.
It is also shown that more gay men catch more disease due to contact with blood through anal sex even with condoms on. The idea of safe sex is a joke and the education that The New Zealand Ministry of Health gives that… Bacteria and viruses …cannot pass through an undamaged condom is a complete lie to the public. Instead of trying to teach society about true safe sex confined to one partner in a faithful relationship, we are left with a society who are going out their to have more sex because its safe because of condoms. This just is not true…
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Saturday, June 7, 2008
All That Terror Teachers?
The Tittle of this post is based on a chapter I have just read in the book “Culture Shift; Engaging Current Issues With Timeless Truths, by Dr. R. Albert Mohler.” It is a good little book that shows what our secular culture is trying to do. And that agenda is basically the stripping of all of Christianity’s principles and philosophical views of reality out of society. For many this might sound like a great idea, but you must know what is left once you strip reality of an eternal interpretation. For those who don’t, it is the release of all rules and principles that make society function with dignity and respect.
There is coming whether you like it or not a society ruled by Anti-Christ. People laugh at the thought of some Devil system, but we already are living in it, step by step.
If you remove all of Christianity from the world, you are left with the complete opposite of what Christianity teaches and promotes about reality. All that the word “Anti” means is to be opposed or” in place of another” system.
We are living in dangerous times, but far too many seem to have forgotten this unforgiving fact. Terror is a tragic teacher and the memories of September 11, 2001, haunt us even now. Terror has taught us to accept reality. This is a dangerous world.
September 11 or 9/11 as some say was a wake up call of the danger of Religions that make a claim of having absolute truth in their hands. So for some the only lesson we can learn from this event is that claiming truth exists is a dangerous thing in the hands of those who are religious. But there is a big difference, religion had nothing to do with 911, it was due to evil terrorists who went out to destroy human life.
The truth is, the event was a wake up call to the secular world, that has been promoting throughout the University’s and Academic arenas that idea that there is no such thing as truth. That it is wrong to judge peoples actions as “who has the truth anyway when it comes to morality”. They claim “You Religious Christians are so judgmental”, as if their claim is not a judgment claim in itself. Yes I’ve seen it my self in the academic world of thinking, Now students there is no such thing as absolute truth, you must be tolerant of all peoples views of reality, sexuality, race and pleasures. That judging is politically incorrect. How a society can exist with laws like that under this system I do not know, but one thing is for sure deep down these people do not believe their Anti-Christ system. Why are they judging if no view is any more truer than any other.
Its amazing that when September 11 happened, the majority of the world cried out, this is absolutely objectively wrong. This is an act of evil implying that there is a universal standard of right and wrong. That ‘evil’ is in fact a part of reality which can not be explain from a secular worldview that denies that humans have a fallen nature and are driven by sin. To say that an action or an event is evil, is to judge it against a standard that the world (universe) should be following. That implies that there must be a moral law behind the universe. Morality is held in minds, so the ultimate morality behind the universe must be held in the mind of God.
We can be grateful to the Sovereignty of God who rules over every event of history for allowing this event to happen, although done through evil hands of terrorists, God has a good moral purpose for it passing. To shock and wake up a world that thinks truth does not exist and all views of reality and morality are equal (and could I say true!).
Its takes an act of terror to wake up our culture to see that God does exist and that trying to strip reality of his existence will not bring happiness and safety to the world.
In trying to reject God they find themselves afirming him and his worldview of reality, sin, evil, and an eternal stanadrd of goodness, his perfect interpretaion of reality.
There is coming whether you like it or not a society ruled by Anti-Christ. People laugh at the thought of some Devil system, but we already are living in it, step by step.
If you remove all of Christianity from the world, you are left with the complete opposite of what Christianity teaches and promotes about reality. All that the word “Anti” means is to be opposed or” in place of another” system.
We are living in dangerous times, but far too many seem to have forgotten this unforgiving fact. Terror is a tragic teacher and the memories of September 11, 2001, haunt us even now. Terror has taught us to accept reality. This is a dangerous world.
September 11 or 9/11 as some say was a wake up call of the danger of Religions that make a claim of having absolute truth in their hands. So for some the only lesson we can learn from this event is that claiming truth exists is a dangerous thing in the hands of those who are religious. But there is a big difference, religion had nothing to do with 911, it was due to evil terrorists who went out to destroy human life.
The truth is, the event was a wake up call to the secular world, that has been promoting throughout the University’s and Academic arenas that idea that there is no such thing as truth. That it is wrong to judge peoples actions as “who has the truth anyway when it comes to morality”. They claim “You Religious Christians are so judgmental”, as if their claim is not a judgment claim in itself. Yes I’ve seen it my self in the academic world of thinking, Now students there is no such thing as absolute truth, you must be tolerant of all peoples views of reality, sexuality, race and pleasures. That judging is politically incorrect. How a society can exist with laws like that under this system I do not know, but one thing is for sure deep down these people do not believe their Anti-Christ system. Why are they judging if no view is any more truer than any other.
Its amazing that when September 11 happened, the majority of the world cried out, this is absolutely objectively wrong. This is an act of evil implying that there is a universal standard of right and wrong. That ‘evil’ is in fact a part of reality which can not be explain from a secular worldview that denies that humans have a fallen nature and are driven by sin. To say that an action or an event is evil, is to judge it against a standard that the world (universe) should be following. That implies that there must be a moral law behind the universe. Morality is held in minds, so the ultimate morality behind the universe must be held in the mind of God.
We can be grateful to the Sovereignty of God who rules over every event of history for allowing this event to happen, although done through evil hands of terrorists, God has a good moral purpose for it passing. To shock and wake up a world that thinks truth does not exist and all views of reality and morality are equal (and could I say true!).
Its takes an act of terror to wake up our culture to see that God does exist and that trying to strip reality of his existence will not bring happiness and safety to the world.
In trying to reject God they find themselves afirming him and his worldview of reality, sin, evil, and an eternal stanadrd of goodness, his perfect interpretaion of reality.
Our Culture Of Counterfeits!
The world seems to always think it knows best when it comes to morality and rules. Never mind that God has crated this world to run and function according to his rules and principles. As our culture pull’s back from their creator, God’s good rules are slowly bent and twisted to fit humanity sinful desires. Our culture takes sex, which is a good thing and twists it into something destructive. This destructive drive is just a counterfeit that will destroy humanity step by step unless we return to our Biblical standards.
In the early twentieth century the British social scientist J. D. Unwin conducted a massive study of six major civilizations and eighty lesser societies covering five thousand years of history in order to understand how sexual behavior affects the rise and fall of social groups. He set out expecting to find evidence supporting Sigmund Freud’s theory that civilizations are essentially neurotic and destroy themselves by restricting sex too much. But to Unwin’s surprise, all the evidence he discovered pointed exactly the other way.
Dr. Daniel Heimbach says,
“But rather than being injured by restricting sex to marriage, Unwin found that in every case that the “expansive energy” of a social group comes from restricting sex to marriage, and sexual license is always the immediate cause of culture decline. In other words, all the evidence he discovered showed that survival of a civilization or society depends on keeping the family life strong and not allowing individuals access to sex in ways that do not support family life…In every verifiable case, he found that once a group becomes sexually permissive, the energy of the society decreased and finally disappeared. A society would begin with high standards limiting sex to one partner in marriage for life. This produced great strength, and society or culture would flourish. Then a new generation would arise demanding sex on easier terms and would lower moral standards. But when this happen the society would lose vitality, grow weak, and then die.”
If that doesn’t scare you, nothing will. We only have to reflect on our world today where a large majority of people aren’t even bothered in getting married while the other half are all getting divorced. Faithfulness is crumbling before our eyes and the act of sex is just about non-existent to being kept for marriage alone. We have teen’s having sex just for fun, we have people having sex just for the feelings, we have swingers changing partners ever week, we have gays, we have lesbians, we have incest in our nation, we have gender confusion. If we do not open our eyes we will head down the same street to destruction.
We must wake up to the counterfeits, I will call them, Romantic morality, Playboy morality, Therapeutic morality.
Romantic Morality,
What we call the romantic sexual morality could be called sentimental sexual morality or affections. This form of morality is based on romantic feelings. Romantic sexual morality glorifies the importance of sentimental affection in sexual relationships that sex is justified based on feeling alone. It basically turns “unconditional love’ into love for the moment. There is a great difference between love and “being in love” which is just a feeling. Feelings change, does that mean we walk out of every relationship and go and sleep with another person and just use people as sex objects to give us good feelings, or is love more than this. True love, loves even when one hates some one for a period of time and true love loves beyond feelings. True love goes beyond pleasure and fun. A relationship based on feelings will not last and makes a mockery of the promises one says to each other when they do get married. Love is not just affection, our affections must be judged by morality.
Playboy Morality
What we call Playboy morality refers to some one who lives for pleasure and who believes that acts of physical sex are justified for no other reason than their ability to entertain. Sex is about pleasure not love, passing the time excitedly with a friend, acquaintance or stranger, without commitments or hurt. Sex is like food, a commodity that we seek and buy as we wish. The problem with this view is that pleasure itself does not define the difference between right or wrong behavior. Sexual pleasure is meant to be moral, but nothing is moral just because it is pleasurable. The second problem is that it fails to define any difference between pleasure and joy. Pleasure comes and goes very fast, but joy last must longer. Encouraging people to think that seeking pleasure will bring them true happiness is a joke as happiness wears off very fast. Joy is a sense of feeling that can last even when there is no pleasure in our experiences. Joy is a much stronger love than mere shallow physical sensations of pleasure. True love for people endures beyond feelings and pleasure. It is also is very self centered, sex is all about getting oneself off with pleasure. When true love and respect for others, is about manifesting joy in your partners heart and soul. It is about thinking of others even if you don’t get what you want all the time. It makes sex very shallow and reduces people to a loaf of bred who can be brought for relief. Also if sex is not defined by a morality first, then who is condemn the person who likes pleasure by combing sex and violence or causing others to suffer. The more people use sex for selfish reasons, the harder it gets to find some one who wants to be used. The less relational, less personal or less unique sex becomes, the less enjoyable or truly satisfying it becomes. Once people are defined as impersonal objects for pleasure, true love and faithfulness loses its power. It loses it power to protect “love” and “personal safety” for us all to get along in a society.
Therapeutic morality
Therapeutic sexual morality is basically all about self, self-actualization, self-fulfillment and self-esteem. When one rejects a faithful biblical unconditional loving relationship, which has boundaries to project individuals in marriage to ground enduring love, individuals pull back to self-centeredness and redefine the term love. Love becomes based on feelings and pleasure and then too impersonal sensations. Once love is based on feelings that do not endure, love becomes short lived and exposed as selfish lusts for ones own wants and needs. In this environment society can not last long as this kind of love will not put up with having to love when there is no pleasure or gain for one self. People basically become lovers of self.
In the early twentieth century the British social scientist J. D. Unwin conducted a massive study of six major civilizations and eighty lesser societies covering five thousand years of history in order to understand how sexual behavior affects the rise and fall of social groups. He set out expecting to find evidence supporting Sigmund Freud’s theory that civilizations are essentially neurotic and destroy themselves by restricting sex too much. But to Unwin’s surprise, all the evidence he discovered pointed exactly the other way.
Dr. Daniel Heimbach says,
“But rather than being injured by restricting sex to marriage, Unwin found that in every case that the “expansive energy” of a social group comes from restricting sex to marriage, and sexual license is always the immediate cause of culture decline. In other words, all the evidence he discovered showed that survival of a civilization or society depends on keeping the family life strong and not allowing individuals access to sex in ways that do not support family life…In every verifiable case, he found that once a group becomes sexually permissive, the energy of the society decreased and finally disappeared. A society would begin with high standards limiting sex to one partner in marriage for life. This produced great strength, and society or culture would flourish. Then a new generation would arise demanding sex on easier terms and would lower moral standards. But when this happen the society would lose vitality, grow weak, and then die.”
If that doesn’t scare you, nothing will. We only have to reflect on our world today where a large majority of people aren’t even bothered in getting married while the other half are all getting divorced. Faithfulness is crumbling before our eyes and the act of sex is just about non-existent to being kept for marriage alone. We have teen’s having sex just for fun, we have people having sex just for the feelings, we have swingers changing partners ever week, we have gays, we have lesbians, we have incest in our nation, we have gender confusion. If we do not open our eyes we will head down the same street to destruction.
We must wake up to the counterfeits, I will call them, Romantic morality, Playboy morality, Therapeutic morality.
Romantic Morality,
What we call the romantic sexual morality could be called sentimental sexual morality or affections. This form of morality is based on romantic feelings. Romantic sexual morality glorifies the importance of sentimental affection in sexual relationships that sex is justified based on feeling alone. It basically turns “unconditional love’ into love for the moment. There is a great difference between love and “being in love” which is just a feeling. Feelings change, does that mean we walk out of every relationship and go and sleep with another person and just use people as sex objects to give us good feelings, or is love more than this. True love, loves even when one hates some one for a period of time and true love loves beyond feelings. True love goes beyond pleasure and fun. A relationship based on feelings will not last and makes a mockery of the promises one says to each other when they do get married. Love is not just affection, our affections must be judged by morality.
Playboy Morality
What we call Playboy morality refers to some one who lives for pleasure and who believes that acts of physical sex are justified for no other reason than their ability to entertain. Sex is about pleasure not love, passing the time excitedly with a friend, acquaintance or stranger, without commitments or hurt. Sex is like food, a commodity that we seek and buy as we wish. The problem with this view is that pleasure itself does not define the difference between right or wrong behavior. Sexual pleasure is meant to be moral, but nothing is moral just because it is pleasurable. The second problem is that it fails to define any difference between pleasure and joy. Pleasure comes and goes very fast, but joy last must longer. Encouraging people to think that seeking pleasure will bring them true happiness is a joke as happiness wears off very fast. Joy is a sense of feeling that can last even when there is no pleasure in our experiences. Joy is a much stronger love than mere shallow physical sensations of pleasure. True love for people endures beyond feelings and pleasure. It is also is very self centered, sex is all about getting oneself off with pleasure. When true love and respect for others, is about manifesting joy in your partners heart and soul. It is about thinking of others even if you don’t get what you want all the time. It makes sex very shallow and reduces people to a loaf of bred who can be brought for relief. Also if sex is not defined by a morality first, then who is condemn the person who likes pleasure by combing sex and violence or causing others to suffer. The more people use sex for selfish reasons, the harder it gets to find some one who wants to be used. The less relational, less personal or less unique sex becomes, the less enjoyable or truly satisfying it becomes. Once people are defined as impersonal objects for pleasure, true love and faithfulness loses its power. It loses it power to protect “love” and “personal safety” for us all to get along in a society.
Therapeutic morality
Therapeutic sexual morality is basically all about self, self-actualization, self-fulfillment and self-esteem. When one rejects a faithful biblical unconditional loving relationship, which has boundaries to project individuals in marriage to ground enduring love, individuals pull back to self-centeredness and redefine the term love. Love becomes based on feelings and pleasure and then too impersonal sensations. Once love is based on feelings that do not endure, love becomes short lived and exposed as selfish lusts for ones own wants and needs. In this environment society can not last long as this kind of love will not put up with having to love when there is no pleasure or gain for one self. People basically become lovers of self.
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Boundaries Exist to Protect
Our culture today does not think much of the Biblical standards on sex and marriage. To many they seem old fashioned or out of place with reality. The laws seem to suppress our desires and human nature to a point of controlling our freedom to enjoy life. But this is the deception of the lie that man can live without boundaries that are imposed upon the desires of humanity. What we think is suppressing our freedom is in fact boundaries that protect the health of our souls so that we can live-out faithful loving relationships that care for all people.
Know where in the Bible does God hate or reject sex as a good thing. For it was God who created us with sexual organs and desires. But the truth is for one to gain ultimate satisfaction and intimacy, which manifests true unfailing love one must have boundaries. It is these boundaries that promote intimacy that flows out of the family unit into the community, which keeps society functioning. The idea of saving sex for marriage and keeping sex between a married couple bound for life these days seems kind of out of touch with reality. But as I hope to show the more you walk away from the perfect standard the more unconditional love is trashed and twisted and society starts to break down.
The first question that we must ask is ‘What is marriage any way”? Is marriage just a social construction that joins “Whoever” together for a season while love is felt? Or is marriage a Covenant that binds two couples together for life to manifest the love of God to each member of the marriage. These two views have two totally different views on what “love” means and also on what is the purpose of marriage.
Biblical Principles Shape Moral Sex
God designed sex to work as a relationship between persons, not things. The first positive principle is that sex must be personal. Sex is designed to express a truly meaningful level of human relationships. If sex occurs denying personal value, then people are turned into sex objects, with no care for ones emotional well being. To have a personal relationship with a spouse is to value their soul and inner qualities and characters traits. To love their strengths and weaknesses, caring about their feelings. This promotes trust, safety, and dignity and worth that makes them feel connected in a faithful loving relationship.
Because sex was designed to be a relationship uniting persons made in the image of God, it cannot be treated as a commodity in which people are treated as if they are impersonal objects. This reduces people to objects that are valued only for performance.
Once one-steps back from this first principle they become selfish, turning unconditional love, into impersonal lust. Once love loses its relationship power, this rejection flows from the family unit into society and manifests in comminutes which then don’t respect any one for their personal worth as a human being.
Sex Must be Exclusive (Unique)
Biblical teaching demands that sex be a part of marriage and not before. God made sex special, so special in fact he wants us to treat each sexual relationship as something that is “one of a kind”. A person with whom you have sex is not someone who should be treated as if he or she were replaceable or could be exchanged. God’s plan for sex transcends the material value of physical performance. It is about showing one person your ultimate love in a way that expresses sexual power that is so intense that your love and experience is for your spouse alone. Sex is powerful! So why trash it by giving it to every one. Nonexclusive sex is a message that tells your partner “You are nothing special” feelings comes and go, I’ve had these feeling with others…Sex is not just about pleasure and feelings, it is about love which lasts when pleasure and feelings pass. Sex is one of the ways of expressing your love of commitment and faithfulness to your spouse. Sharing around just cheapens your love and worth for your spouse. When sex is reduce to just sleeping with who ever, the experience becomes what one worships instead of loving the person whom is your only unique.
Sex must be Intimate
The third positive principle is that human relationships must be intimate. Besides being personal and exclusive, sex must also involve intimacy because it is a relationship designed to be deeply meaningful and profound. Sex must be intimate because God designed sex to join souls and not just bodies. Sex is to manifest true love and edify each other for the love one has for each other. A Marriage is about two becoming one, working together to draw out the goodness that is in each other and in accepting each other faults by openly forgiving each other and reconciling your unconditional love back to each other. Marriage was never supposed to be easy, it is a covenant that teaches us to love.
Marriage creates a climate where this love is put to the test. The highest standard of love is unconditional love and it is in marriage that this claim of love is tested. Marriage is to bring to people who are created in the image of God together to learn to love through the struggles to manifest the character of God to each other being bound in a covenant of unconditional love. It causes us to learn to love, forgive, respect, being faithful so we don’t hurt our spouse. It is to endure sufferings to manifest a love that suffers long, which is not based on pleasure or feelings that change over time. It is a love that is to express the love of God that is working through us.
Sex must be Fruitful
The fourth principle is that moral sex bound by marriage is to be productive. Sex is not just for our own pleasure. But produces offspring, children that are to be part of a loving faithful relationship. They are to be born into a relationship that is to be a model that teaches and trains them to grow in the ways of Gods character, so when they grow up they can manifest God’s love to another. I’m not saying every time one has sex one must have a child, but this is one expression of bringing into being a little person to express love to. The Bible does also say that sex is for pleasure and intimacy to unit couples in a loving relationship which does not include having children, don’t get me wrong. But God does give this gift as a choice. When sex is just impersonal, nonexclusive, and non-intimate children arrive on the scene in an environment that has no connection to love or off belonging. They are just an accident and properly a burden to one's selfish pleasures.
For some they are such a burden that they are thrown away aborted.
Sex must be Selfless (Sacrificial)
A fifth principle is that sex must be selfless and sacrificial. God made sex enjoyable, but not for self-centered ways. Sex is meant to satisfy, but was not made for self-satisfaction. Love is a gift that must be given to another. Sex is an expression of your love for another and as you give your love and pleasure to another out of unconditional love, you will receive love and pleasure back. Sex is not about what we want, when we want it. The act must be done flowing from the right motives and care for the other spouse. Sex is more than just the physical. Sex was also meant to be complementary meaning that God has created a man for a woman as the fit together perfectly on many levels. They are different but complement each other. Selfish love, based on pleasure alone, is impersonal lust, and is not love.
Know where in the Bible does God hate or reject sex as a good thing. For it was God who created us with sexual organs and desires. But the truth is for one to gain ultimate satisfaction and intimacy, which manifests true unfailing love one must have boundaries. It is these boundaries that promote intimacy that flows out of the family unit into the community, which keeps society functioning. The idea of saving sex for marriage and keeping sex between a married couple bound for life these days seems kind of out of touch with reality. But as I hope to show the more you walk away from the perfect standard the more unconditional love is trashed and twisted and society starts to break down.
The first question that we must ask is ‘What is marriage any way”? Is marriage just a social construction that joins “Whoever” together for a season while love is felt? Or is marriage a Covenant that binds two couples together for life to manifest the love of God to each member of the marriage. These two views have two totally different views on what “love” means and also on what is the purpose of marriage.
Biblical Principles Shape Moral Sex
God designed sex to work as a relationship between persons, not things. The first positive principle is that sex must be personal. Sex is designed to express a truly meaningful level of human relationships. If sex occurs denying personal value, then people are turned into sex objects, with no care for ones emotional well being. To have a personal relationship with a spouse is to value their soul and inner qualities and characters traits. To love their strengths and weaknesses, caring about their feelings. This promotes trust, safety, and dignity and worth that makes them feel connected in a faithful loving relationship.
Because sex was designed to be a relationship uniting persons made in the image of God, it cannot be treated as a commodity in which people are treated as if they are impersonal objects. This reduces people to objects that are valued only for performance.
Once one-steps back from this first principle they become selfish, turning unconditional love, into impersonal lust. Once love loses its relationship power, this rejection flows from the family unit into society and manifests in comminutes which then don’t respect any one for their personal worth as a human being.
Sex Must be Exclusive (Unique)
Biblical teaching demands that sex be a part of marriage and not before. God made sex special, so special in fact he wants us to treat each sexual relationship as something that is “one of a kind”. A person with whom you have sex is not someone who should be treated as if he or she were replaceable or could be exchanged. God’s plan for sex transcends the material value of physical performance. It is about showing one person your ultimate love in a way that expresses sexual power that is so intense that your love and experience is for your spouse alone. Sex is powerful! So why trash it by giving it to every one. Nonexclusive sex is a message that tells your partner “You are nothing special” feelings comes and go, I’ve had these feeling with others…Sex is not just about pleasure and feelings, it is about love which lasts when pleasure and feelings pass. Sex is one of the ways of expressing your love of commitment and faithfulness to your spouse. Sharing around just cheapens your love and worth for your spouse. When sex is reduce to just sleeping with who ever, the experience becomes what one worships instead of loving the person whom is your only unique.
Sex must be Intimate
The third positive principle is that human relationships must be intimate. Besides being personal and exclusive, sex must also involve intimacy because it is a relationship designed to be deeply meaningful and profound. Sex must be intimate because God designed sex to join souls and not just bodies. Sex is to manifest true love and edify each other for the love one has for each other. A Marriage is about two becoming one, working together to draw out the goodness that is in each other and in accepting each other faults by openly forgiving each other and reconciling your unconditional love back to each other. Marriage was never supposed to be easy, it is a covenant that teaches us to love.
Marriage creates a climate where this love is put to the test. The highest standard of love is unconditional love and it is in marriage that this claim of love is tested. Marriage is to bring to people who are created in the image of God together to learn to love through the struggles to manifest the character of God to each other being bound in a covenant of unconditional love. It causes us to learn to love, forgive, respect, being faithful so we don’t hurt our spouse. It is to endure sufferings to manifest a love that suffers long, which is not based on pleasure or feelings that change over time. It is a love that is to express the love of God that is working through us.
Sex must be Fruitful
The fourth principle is that moral sex bound by marriage is to be productive. Sex is not just for our own pleasure. But produces offspring, children that are to be part of a loving faithful relationship. They are to be born into a relationship that is to be a model that teaches and trains them to grow in the ways of Gods character, so when they grow up they can manifest God’s love to another. I’m not saying every time one has sex one must have a child, but this is one expression of bringing into being a little person to express love to. The Bible does also say that sex is for pleasure and intimacy to unit couples in a loving relationship which does not include having children, don’t get me wrong. But God does give this gift as a choice. When sex is just impersonal, nonexclusive, and non-intimate children arrive on the scene in an environment that has no connection to love or off belonging. They are just an accident and properly a burden to one's selfish pleasures.
For some they are such a burden that they are thrown away aborted.
Sex must be Selfless (Sacrificial)
A fifth principle is that sex must be selfless and sacrificial. God made sex enjoyable, but not for self-centered ways. Sex is meant to satisfy, but was not made for self-satisfaction. Love is a gift that must be given to another. Sex is an expression of your love for another and as you give your love and pleasure to another out of unconditional love, you will receive love and pleasure back. Sex is not about what we want, when we want it. The act must be done flowing from the right motives and care for the other spouse. Sex is more than just the physical. Sex was also meant to be complementary meaning that God has created a man for a woman as the fit together perfectly on many levels. They are different but complement each other. Selfish love, based on pleasure alone, is impersonal lust, and is not love.
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Reject the Biblical Standard of Marriage and Sex and Society will Collapse
It always amazes me that people think Marriage is a crazy idea and sex has nothing to do with a faithful committed relationship. For many this is just old fashioned or the dogmatic myth of religion imposing its laws on us to rob us of fun and enjoyment. But the serious truth is unless our generation wakes up society is over, that being a safe loving caring faithful society. Where love is a choice, not a feeling.
With the rise of modernism, which denies spiritual life, sex has no necessary purpose or significance. Individuals use sex however they choose, and what they choose does not matter to anyone else. Sex is strictly a personal choice and the only thing everyone must except is that everyone has the right to have sex regardless of whether or not he or she is married. For them sex justifies marriage, marriage does not justify sex. Sex is actually for these people nothing special. It is just a commodity one consumes without creating or assuming anything beyond the immediate experience. I mean if you think you’re here by chance, just an evolved wild beast, why not live like they do, fulfilling every sexual desire.
Cant the world see that some thing is wrong, sex is every where, free and for all. The United States Census in 2000 showed that two-parent families now represent less than 25 percent of all households in America, down from 45 percent as recently as 1960. The divorce rate has doubled and the percentage of people getting married at all has dropped lower than ever before, says Professor Daniel Heimbach.
Dr. Heimbach in his book “True Sexual Morality” also says,
“The rate of illegitimacy (births to unmarried women) rose by more than 500 percent. But while this rise in illegitimate births is terrible, the actual rise in illegitimate pregnancy has been at least two to three times higher, because 80 percent of abortions in America are performed on women who are not married.”
So in a way not getting married is promoting the killing of the unborn.
When you reject true sexual morality and think that every view has no more value than any other does, one is free to live how they like. But in time society will collapse.
Lets look at the spiral effect from Dr. Heimbach book,
1. Biblical marriage, man and women, sex in marriage.
2.Sexual morality.
3. Sex without consequences.
4. Sex without commitments.
5. Sex in any form.
6. Threatens sanctity of procreation and the sanctity of marriage.
7. Threatens sanctity of life, no family units,
8. Destroys respect for life, for self, for others, for community, for truth, for authority and for accountability.
9. Weakens laws, government, and family.
10. Leads to family brake down, divorce, unwed single parenting, cohabitation, undisciplined children, teen pregnancy, pornography, rape, abuse, abortion, euthanasia, homosexuality, domestic partnerships, prostitution, and gender role confusion.
11. Leads to crime, drugs, murder, suicide, riots, truancy, violence, poverty, litigiousness, and economic weakness.
12. Leads to eventual social collapse.
There has been a great shift from thinking sexual discipline is a moral solution, to thinking sexual discipline is a moral problem. There has been a shift from thinking sex is a privilege reserved for people committed to certain goals, to thinking every one should act like animals in the wild.
With the rise of modernism, which denies spiritual life, sex has no necessary purpose or significance. Individuals use sex however they choose, and what they choose does not matter to anyone else. Sex is strictly a personal choice and the only thing everyone must except is that everyone has the right to have sex regardless of whether or not he or she is married. For them sex justifies marriage, marriage does not justify sex. Sex is actually for these people nothing special. It is just a commodity one consumes without creating or assuming anything beyond the immediate experience. I mean if you think you’re here by chance, just an evolved wild beast, why not live like they do, fulfilling every sexual desire.
Cant the world see that some thing is wrong, sex is every where, free and for all. The United States Census in 2000 showed that two-parent families now represent less than 25 percent of all households in America, down from 45 percent as recently as 1960. The divorce rate has doubled and the percentage of people getting married at all has dropped lower than ever before, says Professor Daniel Heimbach.
Dr. Heimbach in his book “True Sexual Morality” also says,
“The rate of illegitimacy (births to unmarried women) rose by more than 500 percent. But while this rise in illegitimate births is terrible, the actual rise in illegitimate pregnancy has been at least two to three times higher, because 80 percent of abortions in America are performed on women who are not married.”
So in a way not getting married is promoting the killing of the unborn.
When you reject true sexual morality and think that every view has no more value than any other does, one is free to live how they like. But in time society will collapse.
Lets look at the spiral effect from Dr. Heimbach book,
1. Biblical marriage, man and women, sex in marriage.
2.Sexual morality.
3. Sex without consequences.
4. Sex without commitments.
5. Sex in any form.
6. Threatens sanctity of procreation and the sanctity of marriage.
7. Threatens sanctity of life, no family units,
8. Destroys respect for life, for self, for others, for community, for truth, for authority and for accountability.
9. Weakens laws, government, and family.
10. Leads to family brake down, divorce, unwed single parenting, cohabitation, undisciplined children, teen pregnancy, pornography, rape, abuse, abortion, euthanasia, homosexuality, domestic partnerships, prostitution, and gender role confusion.
11. Leads to crime, drugs, murder, suicide, riots, truancy, violence, poverty, litigiousness, and economic weakness.
12. Leads to eventual social collapse.
There has been a great shift from thinking sexual discipline is a moral solution, to thinking sexual discipline is a moral problem. There has been a shift from thinking sex is a privilege reserved for people committed to certain goals, to thinking every one should act like animals in the wild.
Who is Your Hero ?
Every one in society looks for a role model to follow. We do this because we are part off a world we did not create, but find ourselves a part off. We seek to be accepted and be part of other people’s lives to gain understanding and love. But who is your hero?
I mean who ever is your role model is the person you are going to copy. The problem with society once it casted God of his Throne in their imagination is that there is no perfect standard above our own desires and wants. So we make laws to justify our evil desires or make rules to make our lives more sufficient. For example why not make prostitution legal, so that people can get what they want on a tap with no commitments. Why not let girls earn money this way, there only getting abused and letting their whole understanding of faithfulness and true love be destroyed before their eyes. For them sex is just a lust to be fed when ever, how ever, nothing scarred or meaningful. Lets try another example Why not make it legal for euthanasia or abortion. Never mind killing innocent people, as long as the burden is off us, all is good. This is why we need a perfect law above the hearts of man, so that we don’t make rules to fit our sick natures.
The hero you follow is the model you will shape society with. It’s sad that many parents these days are not good role models for their children. In fact some children act more normal than their parents. But their parent’s actions will shape them and their actions. A broken family will likely produce a broken kid. If parents can’t show a decent example or act as a normal functioning moral person, where are the children of today supposed to go to understand their place in this world and know how one should act. Should they go looking for our great role models from Hollywood, who have all the frame and money, but cant even keep a marriage together or say no to drugs. Just driven with lust and frame. What about the music world, should we all be indoctrinated with Gangster life styles, the dream of money, sex and beautiful women, but in reality just guns and violence. Or should our role models come from a different genre of music where women just sell their songs by lust and flesh, making them out to be sex objects for any one who likes the song. Why not tease, and then pull away, it only drive’s people to be sex addicts, rapists or Pedo’s, because sex has been trashed. Or should we seek some where else for a hero for society. Maybe Jesus the one people think is so old fashion and out of touch with reality should be our role model. He could reform society with ease.
But we believe we can make our own role models according to our likes and feelings, we don’t need God. We believe everything is ok as long as you don’t hurt anyone to the best of your definition of hurt and to the best of your knowledge. Oh we believe in sex before, during and after marriage. We believe in the therapy of sin, that adultery is fun, that sodomy is ok, that taboo’s are taboo.
We believe that everything is getting better despite evidence to the contrary. We believe there something in horoscopes UFO’s and bent spoons. Jesus was a good man just like Buddha, Mohammed and ourselves. He was a good teacher although we think his morals are bad. We believe that man is essentially good it’s just his behavior that lets him down. This is the fault of society. Society is the fault of conditions. Conditions are the fault of society.
We believe that each man must find the truth that is right for him. Reality will adapt accordingly. The universe will adjust. History will alter. We believe there is no absolute truth, excepting the truth that there are no absolute truths. We believe what’s selected is average, what’s average is normal, what’s normal is good. We believe morality evolved by chance determined by our genes, we desire it, so it’s right. we reject any idea of a correct way to function accroding to a designer, we just sleep with any thing that shows a response.
This is the nonsense that we have to put up with when one refuses to acknowledge God and his ways. Be careful who your role model is?
I mean who ever is your role model is the person you are going to copy. The problem with society once it casted God of his Throne in their imagination is that there is no perfect standard above our own desires and wants. So we make laws to justify our evil desires or make rules to make our lives more sufficient. For example why not make prostitution legal, so that people can get what they want on a tap with no commitments. Why not let girls earn money this way, there only getting abused and letting their whole understanding of faithfulness and true love be destroyed before their eyes. For them sex is just a lust to be fed when ever, how ever, nothing scarred or meaningful. Lets try another example Why not make it legal for euthanasia or abortion. Never mind killing innocent people, as long as the burden is off us, all is good. This is why we need a perfect law above the hearts of man, so that we don’t make rules to fit our sick natures.
The hero you follow is the model you will shape society with. It’s sad that many parents these days are not good role models for their children. In fact some children act more normal than their parents. But their parent’s actions will shape them and their actions. A broken family will likely produce a broken kid. If parents can’t show a decent example or act as a normal functioning moral person, where are the children of today supposed to go to understand their place in this world and know how one should act. Should they go looking for our great role models from Hollywood, who have all the frame and money, but cant even keep a marriage together or say no to drugs. Just driven with lust and frame. What about the music world, should we all be indoctrinated with Gangster life styles, the dream of money, sex and beautiful women, but in reality just guns and violence. Or should our role models come from a different genre of music where women just sell their songs by lust and flesh, making them out to be sex objects for any one who likes the song. Why not tease, and then pull away, it only drive’s people to be sex addicts, rapists or Pedo’s, because sex has been trashed. Or should we seek some where else for a hero for society. Maybe Jesus the one people think is so old fashion and out of touch with reality should be our role model. He could reform society with ease.
But we believe we can make our own role models according to our likes and feelings, we don’t need God. We believe everything is ok as long as you don’t hurt anyone to the best of your definition of hurt and to the best of your knowledge. Oh we believe in sex before, during and after marriage. We believe in the therapy of sin, that adultery is fun, that sodomy is ok, that taboo’s are taboo.
We believe that everything is getting better despite evidence to the contrary. We believe there something in horoscopes UFO’s and bent spoons. Jesus was a good man just like Buddha, Mohammed and ourselves. He was a good teacher although we think his morals are bad. We believe that man is essentially good it’s just his behavior that lets him down. This is the fault of society. Society is the fault of conditions. Conditions are the fault of society.
We believe that each man must find the truth that is right for him. Reality will adapt accordingly. The universe will adjust. History will alter. We believe there is no absolute truth, excepting the truth that there are no absolute truths. We believe what’s selected is average, what’s average is normal, what’s normal is good. We believe morality evolved by chance determined by our genes, we desire it, so it’s right. we reject any idea of a correct way to function accroding to a designer, we just sleep with any thing that shows a response.
This is the nonsense that we have to put up with when one refuses to acknowledge God and his ways. Be careful who your role model is?
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Heterosexuality is a Universal Cultural Norm (Part2)
When it comes to our sexuality, is it a matter of personal taste or preferences or is it due to our created gender and created order. Is heterosexuality just another preference, like homosexuality? I think we must be careful here because people will say that its not a preference but is who I am. I did not chose to like the same sex, but this is what I found myself to like and to be.
One must be careful when one says, “This is how I feel or am meant to be”. Does this mean that our sexual preferences are based on “feelings” or on correct union of genders. Is what is right based on what we feel, or does our created nature tell us something about reality. One truth that we can not get away from is that heterosexuality is a universal cultural norm, it is not just a preference. The union of a male and female in a family unit with procreation and kids is what keeps society functioning healthy. Therefore homosexuality is endangering society and humanity. Without this norm humanity would come to extinction and not exist. If homosexuality were a universal norm, life would not continue. If life is to continue the way it always has been heterosexuality must be classed as a universal and cultural norm.
If our sexuality was based on just our “feelings” then who could deny any combinations of relationship, including sisters or brothers. Feelings are a dangerous place to define what is right and what is wrong. What happens if you like animals or young kids, or Grandparents, or even tree’s? Definition should be based on adult consent of correct use of genders according to a universal norm if right and wrong have any meaning at all. A Male and a Females body connects in harmony perfectly, they are designed to connect and reproduce. Our feelings, which can at times be wrong, must be defined by our gender and physical natures.
If our genders define our sexuality and keep our feelings in order, then we are what we have been created to be and not what we feel we like to be. If heterosexuality demonstrates a universal norm, what do we mean by “norm”. Does this imply what is normal, what is right or what is good for humanity, or what works…I think the answer implies all of them in some way. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying homosexual people are evil or perverts, but what I am saying is that they have misunderstood there relationship with reality and our correct function to exist. Some might say we can live how we want, we can adopt children or use artificial ways to have children to keep humanity running. But this again is wrong. Why should we change what is normal and has worked perfectly well since time began. Why not accept that some of our feelings go against our created natures and genders. Some feelings are just wrong, out of correct balance with reality and God.
To say one is just born this way, opens up many questions. What does this mean?
Is this based on your gender or your feelings? If your feelings then you cannot condemn the person that likes to sleep with animals or with kids or the rapist who say’s his feelings come from the way he was born. We all have many feelings, but how are we to know that we were born this way to have these desires, which we class as true and correct, if there is no design or purpose to reality. If any feelings can be classed as wrong, then they must be judged against a standard that the universe is supposed to be following. I mean we were all born, and we all act according to feelings, so does that mean that all feelings have the same value and worth and truth content as each other. To say that I was born this way, if there is no correct standard doesn’t really put any weight to an argument.
One must be careful when one says, “This is how I feel or am meant to be”. Does this mean that our sexual preferences are based on “feelings” or on correct union of genders. Is what is right based on what we feel, or does our created nature tell us something about reality. One truth that we can not get away from is that heterosexuality is a universal cultural norm, it is not just a preference. The union of a male and female in a family unit with procreation and kids is what keeps society functioning healthy. Therefore homosexuality is endangering society and humanity. Without this norm humanity would come to extinction and not exist. If homosexuality were a universal norm, life would not continue. If life is to continue the way it always has been heterosexuality must be classed as a universal and cultural norm.
If our sexuality was based on just our “feelings” then who could deny any combinations of relationship, including sisters or brothers. Feelings are a dangerous place to define what is right and what is wrong. What happens if you like animals or young kids, or Grandparents, or even tree’s? Definition should be based on adult consent of correct use of genders according to a universal norm if right and wrong have any meaning at all. A Male and a Females body connects in harmony perfectly, they are designed to connect and reproduce. Our feelings, which can at times be wrong, must be defined by our gender and physical natures.
If our genders define our sexuality and keep our feelings in order, then we are what we have been created to be and not what we feel we like to be. If heterosexuality demonstrates a universal norm, what do we mean by “norm”. Does this imply what is normal, what is right or what is good for humanity, or what works…I think the answer implies all of them in some way. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying homosexual people are evil or perverts, but what I am saying is that they have misunderstood there relationship with reality and our correct function to exist. Some might say we can live how we want, we can adopt children or use artificial ways to have children to keep humanity running. But this again is wrong. Why should we change what is normal and has worked perfectly well since time began. Why not accept that some of our feelings go against our created natures and genders. Some feelings are just wrong, out of correct balance with reality and God.
To say one is just born this way, opens up many questions. What does this mean?
Is this based on your gender or your feelings? If your feelings then you cannot condemn the person that likes to sleep with animals or with kids or the rapist who say’s his feelings come from the way he was born. We all have many feelings, but how are we to know that we were born this way to have these desires, which we class as true and correct, if there is no design or purpose to reality. If any feelings can be classed as wrong, then they must be judged against a standard that the universe is supposed to be following. I mean we were all born, and we all act according to feelings, so does that mean that all feelings have the same value and worth and truth content as each other. To say that I was born this way, if there is no correct standard doesn’t really put any weight to an argument.
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